I’ve had several conversations with people regarding this topic – the ability to stay involved and work in a relationship. Two universal truths were apparent:
1. Not many people in this day and age want to work.
2. There are too many options.
Unfortunately, in our microwave society where people have become disposable, people aren’t forced to tough it out. The option to not work it out is far more appealing – because “I can have another you in a minute. Matter fact, he’ll be here in a minute. -Beyonce”
A person could have all the qualities you want in a person and you’ll dismiss them because of one slight annoyance.
This leaves me to ponder the question…
Is anyone worth anything to anybody anymore?
When you decide to like someone and pursue something further with them, do you practice sticking it out now?
If you don’t practice forgiveness and sticking it out now with a person what makes you think you’ll automatically be able to do it in a marriage?
You need to forget what the world is doing and gain your own happiness. Look around. The world is miserable. Society now is heading into the direction of disposable people. People have become disposable in friendships and in relationships.
Back in the day, you argued but you made up and continued on with life together. How can you stand the rain if your run at the first sign of drizzle? Are you a fair weather friend? Are you a fair weather lover? Is your capacity to love ONLY in ideal circumstances?
If so, you’re going to be alone or in and out of relationships for a very long time. People are human. People are flawed. They are going to hurt you. I say that all to say that even though that is the case – getting past those obstacles strengthen your character and gives you the opportunity to practice forgiveness.
I want to urge you to practice your staying power.
You can do it.
I believe in you.